laserguy16
Heres the skinny:
We want to get married, but I will never have enough money to buy her a ring. Ok, so we have a baby together, we waited, and now the time is right. We COULD use some money from tax rebates on a ring. Ok, now the remaining money wouldn't let us do a wedding, and we both have huge families (and unlike most people now-a-days we have family values and talk to these people regularly) so the amount of guests would be about 200. Oh yeah, our credit is F***ed so that isn't an option.
I'm a DJ on the side so finding someone who owes me a favor and will DJ wouldn't be a problem. This comes down to location and catering.
Location: Ideally outside, even if it was a back yard, we still have to deal with tents / chairs / tables / table cloths etc etc etc.
Catering, I was really thinking a pig (or 3) roast.
Who has ideas on low cost weddings?
What kind of ring is right, and doesn't say "I way overspent on this" and also doesn't flop the other direction and say "hey I'm a giant douchebag, I don't want to spend much on you"... I have a feeling that if I don't find that delicate balance soon I will be on the street.
Answer
Okay, let's plan a inexpensive wedding. But first let me say this and don't be offended. You do not have to have a wedding in front of family to be married. For God's sake you have a child, go to the courthouse buy a marriage license and get married there. Anyone who wants to wine and cry because they didn't get to see you married needed to pay for the wedding of "their" dreams. Secondly, skip the engagement ring and just have a simple wedding band and if you can only afford one, well get it for the bride. My hubby of 30+ years has never had a wedding band and has never wanted one, too dangerous around the equipment he works with. You can always upgrade rings later in life when money is not so tight. Third thing, please don't waste tax refund on a wedding when it could be used for a house down payment, night classes or baby's medical bills, something important.
Okay, I'll stop preaching at ya now, it's the mother in me!
Here is what friends of ours did a few years ago and it was a lot of fun. Hopefully if you are still insistent about a wedding it will give you some good ideas:
Wedding was held at a local lake and only immediate family attended the lakeside service. Nearby was a screened in pavilion which they rented. It had a small kitchen and bathrooms and picnic tables in it. Someone brought their stereo and speakers, bride & groom had made cds of their favorite songs and that took the place of a dj (you can use your friend). The food was made by bride & other family members (bbq, potato salad, think family reunion). A family friend w/ a nice camera took pictures and they were great. Family members could borrow disc and print whichever pics they wanted. Bride had purchased her dress at a local shop for a few hundred dollars, but I would recommend eBay for a used dress, or resale shop.....don't spend over $100. It will be worn one time and then hang collecting dust. Also if bride is not insistent on the whole wedding dress thing, go with something more casual like a sundress. If tuxes are expensive in your area, just wear black pants and a white shirt, maybe a tie if you want to go that formal, just go to someplace like Wal-mart for these items. Only have a Maid of Honor and your Best Man and they supply their own outfits. Remember it's outdoors, casual is okay. Wal-mart, Hobby Lobby are places that carry pre-made silk bouquets for under 20 bucks. Or girl's might be able to make their own. Now our friends chose to have a couple of kegs of beer but I would recommend you skip that since it adds to cost very quickly. Almost forgot, invitations were bought at Wal-Mart, printed out at home and included instructions to the immediate family to bring their lawn chairs, seating was not supplies. Friends received invitations inviting them to reception, telling them location and time and stated: "Seating is limited, the scenery is great, so grab you lawn chairs and come help us celebrate our special day." Counting, plates, plastic dinnerware, cups, tea, coffee, beer, wedding cake(bride's friend made it as her gift to them), invitations, postage, dress, tux, food, preacher, license, rings,and one night in a nice motel, they said they spent about $1500. Others bringing food saved them a tremendous amount and not renting chairs & tables did too. Wedding was this time of the year, so weather was perfect.
Good luck, look around for a special place, a pretty park, or maybe a family members large yard, I know you can find someplace that will cost you very little and still be a nice setting for a wedding. You've got the dj, and hog idea is great if you have a way to do it and know what hogs will cost you, that's a lot of BBQ sauce too, lol. But most of all, remember, you are just as married if it cost you $10 or $10,000. Hug that baby, tell it's momma you love her more than life itself and remember they are what really matters in your life, not a big wedding but making a family!
Okay, let's plan a inexpensive wedding. But first let me say this and don't be offended. You do not have to have a wedding in front of family to be married. For God's sake you have a child, go to the courthouse buy a marriage license and get married there. Anyone who wants to wine and cry because they didn't get to see you married needed to pay for the wedding of "their" dreams. Secondly, skip the engagement ring and just have a simple wedding band and if you can only afford one, well get it for the bride. My hubby of 30+ years has never had a wedding band and has never wanted one, too dangerous around the equipment he works with. You can always upgrade rings later in life when money is not so tight. Third thing, please don't waste tax refund on a wedding when it could be used for a house down payment, night classes or baby's medical bills, something important.
Okay, I'll stop preaching at ya now, it's the mother in me!
Here is what friends of ours did a few years ago and it was a lot of fun. Hopefully if you are still insistent about a wedding it will give you some good ideas:
Wedding was held at a local lake and only immediate family attended the lakeside service. Nearby was a screened in pavilion which they rented. It had a small kitchen and bathrooms and picnic tables in it. Someone brought their stereo and speakers, bride & groom had made cds of their favorite songs and that took the place of a dj (you can use your friend). The food was made by bride & other family members (bbq, potato salad, think family reunion). A family friend w/ a nice camera took pictures and they were great. Family members could borrow disc and print whichever pics they wanted. Bride had purchased her dress at a local shop for a few hundred dollars, but I would recommend eBay for a used dress, or resale shop.....don't spend over $100. It will be worn one time and then hang collecting dust. Also if bride is not insistent on the whole wedding dress thing, go with something more casual like a sundress. If tuxes are expensive in your area, just wear black pants and a white shirt, maybe a tie if you want to go that formal, just go to someplace like Wal-mart for these items. Only have a Maid of Honor and your Best Man and they supply their own outfits. Remember it's outdoors, casual is okay. Wal-mart, Hobby Lobby are places that carry pre-made silk bouquets for under 20 bucks. Or girl's might be able to make their own. Now our friends chose to have a couple of kegs of beer but I would recommend you skip that since it adds to cost very quickly. Almost forgot, invitations were bought at Wal-Mart, printed out at home and included instructions to the immediate family to bring their lawn chairs, seating was not supplies. Friends received invitations inviting them to reception, telling them location and time and stated: "Seating is limited, the scenery is great, so grab you lawn chairs and come help us celebrate our special day." Counting, plates, plastic dinnerware, cups, tea, coffee, beer, wedding cake(bride's friend made it as her gift to them), invitations, postage, dress, tux, food, preacher, license, rings,and one night in a nice motel, they said they spent about $1500. Others bringing food saved them a tremendous amount and not renting chairs & tables did too. Wedding was this time of the year, so weather was perfect.
Good luck, look around for a special place, a pretty park, or maybe a family members large yard, I know you can find someplace that will cost you very little and still be a nice setting for a wedding. You've got the dj, and hog idea is great if you have a way to do it and know what hogs will cost you, that's a lot of BBQ sauce too, lol. But most of all, remember, you are just as married if it cost you $10 or $10,000. Hug that baby, tell it's momma you love her more than life itself and remember they are what really matters in your life, not a big wedding but making a family!
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