Update: Does he still has feelings for me?

YourSaucy

I know the reason he wanted to end thing with me because he thought he couldn't make me happy and that I didn't appreciate what he offered. When I told him that I didn't feel butterflies in my stomach in which he tried so hard to please me with gift-flower/expensive dinners/great times and efforts, he stomped out and asked for a break and ended thing with me a month later, I agreed with the break up and tried to move on even I'm dying inside. He probably got hurt when he thought he can't make me happy/desire him. He was wrong about that. I did and I still do. He should know a good relationship takes time to develop true feelings, especially for women

Anyway, thing happens for a reason, I stopped all contact, no begging/pleading/convincing and said to him that I love to fill him in but in the future, we both need some space right now, I need to get over him first then we can be friends as he wanted when I ready

Who knows what the future hold!!, I do believe he was honest about his feelings for me at the time about the way he and I felt at the time that we both fit in like a puzzle in most level, got along so well and think alike on most things, laugh and had great times together, never fight, had amazing compatible sex and he's also admitted that we made for each other, that I made him all happy inside out and he was glad to found me and we still can't make it, he said because he started to feel uneasy and his dream forever women who is one is very easy going /uncomplicated/ not so demanding!!!!. If we get along so well and think alike in most things then why the hell he viewed me as the character above?, please tell me that he didn't know what he talking about!!

His reason for a break up didn't make any sense but polls and relationship studies show varied "reasons" men give are often because they have problems sorting out their own feelings...and have trouble putting their feelings into words,

I'm still whining because it was one the best relationships that I ever had!, can you tell but I'm strong enough to let him go though before he ever wants to come back, one thing for sure if we had a second chance, our relatiosnhip will be much stronger. I hope he still think of me from time to time since we had good acquaintance and a lot of fun together. What should I do guys beside giving us some space?

Update: I'm very sorry that I hurt him even he didn't talk about it. I would be devastated if he told me the same thing regardless of being honest about our feelings or not. He got serious 3 weeks into our relatiosnhip, planned future, said his home is my future resident, planned send his and mine kids to the same college, planned a charity with our both name, took my side, we always held hands and PDA in public, he always spooned me at the dinners, had to sit next to me, took me to a massage when I was feeling down, money is not the issue when it came to pleasing me, we met in Dec 3 and by Dec 23 he sent me 23 Red and Pink Roses with it's own Versace vase that he bought separated plus Victoria Secrets pajama plus a set of panties with extra panties to make sure it fit me!! , best sex, he said he really likes the way I look i.e. classy and everything about me. So, now, girls tell me if that wouldn't scared you way?, I was so much flattered but would you just jump in to a relatiosnhip that is so brand new but too good to be true?, I always put my guard up even though I never left, I slowly let him in since we went out on the town and stayed out at local coffee shop or bar that opens late to talk or went to the movies until midnight without sex ( he has money so go to hotel is not a problem but he never suggested that and said we still have fun doesn't matter what we do), I put my guard down when he held me in his arms and allowed me to be myself crying when I talked about my sister and he made me feel that he will be there no matter what even when I wasn't at my best ( I thought she never cared for me or protected me when our father passed away when I was 1 year old), bad times bring people closer in my book and that felt good to cry in his arms. I sent him Beyonce song " Halo" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bnVUHWCynig" to let him know how I feel when I asked him help me to understand why we are not talking, then he sent me a email and ended. Do you think after he done all those for me in the beginning of our rela., does he still has the same feelings for me?, do we have another chance?, what should I do guys?, I will let him cool down for a month or so then will go from there. I want him back, we're 50s, have teenagers kids, our path has been crossed 3 times, he is White and I'm an Asian woman. Plz help me how to have a second chance with him to make him happy and I will never take him for granted. Is it okay to contact him/call in another 3 weeks?. Thanks guys. An appreciate woman

Answer
You are either in or you are out...make up your mind! You aren't a teenager anymore.

Do gifts tell you something about how people value you?

pachl@sbcg

The problem I perceive having is this: I feel like getting bad gifts (ones that show no imagination, tacky gifts, cheap gifts) are a reflection of peoples' low regard for me.

I don't know if that is true or not.

I am living in Prague, Czech Republic. Most of my friends are younger than me, and don't make as much money. Throughout the year, I frequently invite them out to dinner, or get them small things without wanting nor expecting anything in return.

I realize many people may be short on money. Due to the financial crisis, I have to be very careful myself. I have cut back tremendously. I'll often even walk rather than spend the $1 it costs to ride the tram.

But this Christmas, I was really let down. Should I feel this way, or is it likely that my friends simply don't put much emphasis on gift giving? When I get a real "dud" of a gift, I feel like it's a slap in the face. But I'm not speaking of the cost of the gift, but rather if it's a good gift at all. For example, I also go to the University here, and a girl in my class gave me a hand-made Christmas card. I still have it on my refrigerator. I really value it because it was so thoughtful.

I gave one friend JBL speakers for Iphone and Ipod use. In return I got an ice cream scoop. I'm only slightly disappointed here, because the ice cream scoop is actually quite nice. And this gift is useful, so it shows real thought.

I gave a Versace shirt to another friend. He gave me a cheap, tacky ceramic piggy bank.

For my sister, I found a perfect gift. She absolutely loved it. She called me on Christmas Eve to tell me how perfect it was and how she's always astounded how good my taste is. In the next breath she tells me she didn't get around to sending me anything until just that day. What did I get? A delivery straight from Amazon.com: two cheap paperbacks and the same DVD set she gave me last summer (passive-aggressive behavior, or did she just forget?)

Why do I put such emphasis on the gifts I receive? Should I feel slighted when I get bad gifts?
Addition: my sister is probably the worst. She had plenty of money and time. And yet she waited until Christmas Eve to even get on the internet to buy a gift. This is the laziest route possible. I look at the situation and think, "That's all I'm worth to her? Ten minutes on the internet, and even then she gets me nothing imaginative?"

Answer
I received exactly 0 gifts this Christmas. And I'm as happy as can be. Not that I don't like gifts, gifts are great. But never forget that the practice of gift giving is culturally derived. I am from a culture that is not big on gift giving at Christmas (a practise common in the US, magnified by consumerism to being a multi-billion dollar industry), but we take care of each other all throughout the year.
Gift giving is never a good measure of your value to people simply because there are too many variables.
People may use gifts as a way to avoid taking care of each other, but still stay in the 'close' zone. Other may come from a culture like mine. Some may come from large families where gift giving is common, so they'll send gifts even when they don't value you, other will not be unused to, or feel awkward expressing their appreciation in that way.
Giving and receiving gifts is great. It's a nice bonus. But it's not the cake. Some people around you care, some don't. The best thing you can do it take care of everyone, and give yourself the gift of being a good person.

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