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Aaron
I have nextel, really the only service that works at my house. I really want the i880, really really bad, and my b-day commn up. Right now I have a custom red i265, it works good and all, I just really want the i880. How could I convince her that she should get my this cell phone.
Her argument is that I just got this phone, and she just paid to have a red houseing put on, she would have to pay the full price (500.00), that I have an iPod and a Camera, and a lot of ringtones alredy, end of conversation.
It has a mp3 player, video, 2.0 mega.pix. cam, huge screen, ect.
Answer
How about trying to set that cell phone you want as a goal. I mean instead of turning to your mother for what you want try striving to own what you want and may not need on your own. This is all fine if you understand how much hard work it takes to afford all that stuff and not basing your self-worth around what you buy or what you have or do not have.
Like come on, being told ânoâ and that ânoâ in turns gets displayed as a disappointment on your part, in your frame of mind isnât a safe way of looking at the situation here for you are going about this all wrong. If you aspire to have the latest technology and what not that it's not a bad goal, but you have to set it as a goal and not something that can easily be handed to you. It takes a lot of hard work to get there. To get the things you want and if you donât get there then you have to be able to tell yourself youâll be able to survive without it.
Like come on, your mother is your mother for Peteâs sake not someone you should be manipulating for your own selfish needs. Once again, she is your mother and I am sure she wants nothing but the best for you and saying ânoâ is apart of that of your happiness.
Sounds ridiculous I know but your motherâs job as a parent is not to make you or get you in the habit of thinking you will feel good by giving you everything that makes you feel good at the time. Man, you should be grateful you have a mother like that for she really sounds like she is doing her job as a parent which is preparing you to succeed in school and when you get out into the world. I mean, it sounds like she is socializing you in a way that you understand you must work hard for what you get by telling you âno.â The downfall here though is your struggle in this want and continue thinking the way you do and youâll learn and fill your head with nothing but manipulation, and perhaps even pouting, crying, door slamming and guilt induction.
Start setting goals for yourself. If youâre in school, work hard on keeping your grades up. Help around the house. Cook dinner for your family twice a week or even once a week. Take out the trash. Do something. Make an effort. Heck, get a part-time job if you can. Even if you can make a few bucks by shoveling some neighbor's drive-way or walk someoneâs dog(s). I donât know. The point is, and what I am suggesting to you is be open with your mother and allow her to be open with you without one other feeling guilty or put down. Try coming to an agreement about the material goods you want. For example: An agreement on raising a grade level. Within a set period of time, maybe by the end of mid-term or at the end of a school year if your grade level or levels improve your mother will buy you that cell phone you want. Or doing a set of chores around the house, or working a few odd jobs and your mother will double that money to go towards what you want. Set an agreement. Make an effort. Otherwise learn to live without.
paaatches âLong I know, *points up above* and I was sort of lecturing you in the process which I donât mean any harm out of it, I really donât but I just read what you wrote and felt gob smacked. You have everything going for and not to mention a great mother. You know how many people out there would die to have that. To have a mother who actually parents? A lot! Learn to appreciate and be grateful for what you have.
How about trying to set that cell phone you want as a goal. I mean instead of turning to your mother for what you want try striving to own what you want and may not need on your own. This is all fine if you understand how much hard work it takes to afford all that stuff and not basing your self-worth around what you buy or what you have or do not have.
Like come on, being told ânoâ and that ânoâ in turns gets displayed as a disappointment on your part, in your frame of mind isnât a safe way of looking at the situation here for you are going about this all wrong. If you aspire to have the latest technology and what not that it's not a bad goal, but you have to set it as a goal and not something that can easily be handed to you. It takes a lot of hard work to get there. To get the things you want and if you donât get there then you have to be able to tell yourself youâll be able to survive without it.
Like come on, your mother is your mother for Peteâs sake not someone you should be manipulating for your own selfish needs. Once again, she is your mother and I am sure she wants nothing but the best for you and saying ânoâ is apart of that of your happiness.
Sounds ridiculous I know but your motherâs job as a parent is not to make you or get you in the habit of thinking you will feel good by giving you everything that makes you feel good at the time. Man, you should be grateful you have a mother like that for she really sounds like she is doing her job as a parent which is preparing you to succeed in school and when you get out into the world. I mean, it sounds like she is socializing you in a way that you understand you must work hard for what you get by telling you âno.â The downfall here though is your struggle in this want and continue thinking the way you do and youâll learn and fill your head with nothing but manipulation, and perhaps even pouting, crying, door slamming and guilt induction.
Start setting goals for yourself. If youâre in school, work hard on keeping your grades up. Help around the house. Cook dinner for your family twice a week or even once a week. Take out the trash. Do something. Make an effort. Heck, get a part-time job if you can. Even if you can make a few bucks by shoveling some neighbor's drive-way or walk someoneâs dog(s). I donât know. The point is, and what I am suggesting to you is be open with your mother and allow her to be open with you without one other feeling guilty or put down. Try coming to an agreement about the material goods you want. For example: An agreement on raising a grade level. Within a set period of time, maybe by the end of mid-term or at the end of a school year if your grade level or levels improve your mother will buy you that cell phone you want. Or doing a set of chores around the house, or working a few odd jobs and your mother will double that money to go towards what you want. Set an agreement. Make an effort. Otherwise learn to live without.
paaatches âLong I know, *points up above* and I was sort of lecturing you in the process which I donât mean any harm out of it, I really donât but I just read what you wrote and felt gob smacked. You have everything going for and not to mention a great mother. You know how many people out there would die to have that. To have a mother who actually parents? A lot! Learn to appreciate and be grateful for what you have.
My son's father passed away in a car crash 2005 he has decided to join the military.?
Leigh Ann
My son is 25 years old and has made the decision to join the Navy he will be leaving for boot camp Nov. 6th. After boot camp he will be going to school for submarines. I'm am having a going away party, bbq on my spacious back deck we're also using a 20 by 20 tent behind the deck and utilizing our brand new 12 by 24 garage in case of bad weather. I am planing this picinic for Sept. 29. We live in the Poconos of Pa and it may be chilly. I would like to do a red, white and blue theme and incorporate a Christmas theme since he will miss this very special occasion. I'm at a loss and need help with setting up a menu and music since the ages vary from 20 thru 50. This is a very special day and I would like everything to be simple. We are looking at possibly having 50 to 80 guests. I would like to do the food myself. I have enough fridge space and time. I just need ideas for what kind of menu. I have a very big grill. My second son who is seventeen will be leaving for the Navy July 15, 2008.
Answer
Wow, you must be a proud mother! You have such courageous sons! I think it's wonderful that your throwing him a going away party. I love the red, white and blue theme. Your son's joined a good branch of service. I think it's also very sweet of you to celebrate Christmas early for him. You should have your Christmas tree set up and decorations as well. Have Christmas songs playing in your house to give it that warm feeling. Also, exchange gifts with him as it was Christmas Eve. That way, when that day comes....he won't feel sad and alone....because he's already celebrated it with you! He will love that and I am sure it will mean soooo much to him. If you want to follow through with the celebrating holidays early for him....maybe you should do a Thanksgiving dinner....or prepare his favorite dish for him (only you know what that is).
If you don't do the Thanksgiving Dinner:
You should have deviled eggs...everyone loves those and they are really easy to make. Chips and Dip are a must. Finger foods are the best for people of all ages. Patato salad. Oooh, a chocolate and cheese fondue would be great! Make sure not to forget the cake....you should get a cake with a picture of your son. If you can, gather home videos (non-embarassing) of your son and share them with your friends and family. Have a speech ready for him and tell him why you're proud that he is your son.
FYI- keep in touch with his recruiter because they have all the information you need.....(address to write him, graduation information...etc.) They will guide you and let you know everything you need to know about him. Trust me....boot camp is a peice of cake....I think it's 3 months and time flies fast. Also, in those 3 months while he is gone, look into tickets to fly where he is inbootcamp (if it's not in the same city or state) so you can see him graduate. It's soooo important for you to be there....trust me! It's the best feeling in the world! :) Good luck and God Bless you and your sons!
Wow, you must be a proud mother! You have such courageous sons! I think it's wonderful that your throwing him a going away party. I love the red, white and blue theme. Your son's joined a good branch of service. I think it's also very sweet of you to celebrate Christmas early for him. You should have your Christmas tree set up and decorations as well. Have Christmas songs playing in your house to give it that warm feeling. Also, exchange gifts with him as it was Christmas Eve. That way, when that day comes....he won't feel sad and alone....because he's already celebrated it with you! He will love that and I am sure it will mean soooo much to him. If you want to follow through with the celebrating holidays early for him....maybe you should do a Thanksgiving dinner....or prepare his favorite dish for him (only you know what that is).
If you don't do the Thanksgiving Dinner:
You should have deviled eggs...everyone loves those and they are really easy to make. Chips and Dip are a must. Finger foods are the best for people of all ages. Patato salad. Oooh, a chocolate and cheese fondue would be great! Make sure not to forget the cake....you should get a cake with a picture of your son. If you can, gather home videos (non-embarassing) of your son and share them with your friends and family. Have a speech ready for him and tell him why you're proud that he is your son.
FYI- keep in touch with his recruiter because they have all the information you need.....(address to write him, graduation information...etc.) They will guide you and let you know everything you need to know about him. Trust me....boot camp is a peice of cake....I think it's 3 months and time flies fast. Also, in those 3 months while he is gone, look into tickets to fly where he is inbootcamp (if it's not in the same city or state) so you can see him graduate. It's soooo important for you to be there....trust me! It's the best feeling in the world! :) Good luck and God Bless you and your sons!
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